Case Study: Finding Clarity and Confidence in the Decision to Divorce

Before gaining a deeper understanding of how her human experience is created, my client, A, approached marriage through a lens shaped by cultural and religious expectations. She believed that since she had made Istikhara (a prayer for guidance) and knew her responsibilities, fulfilling those responsibilities would naturally lead to her rights being granted without even having to ask for them.

In her culture, it was common to prioritize others' needs, often at the expense of one’s own. This mindset led A to give selflessly in her marriage, assuming that her rights would automatically be honored as she focused on giving her spouse his. The unspoken assumption was that if both husband and wife came from the same cultural background, their rights would be mutually respected without the need for explicit communication.

However, this belief system left A in a painful and unfulfilled marriage for decades. She was always giving but not receiving—caught in a cycle where her own needs were ignored, and boundaries were never set. When shortcomings occurred, she never clearly articulated that certain behaviors were not acceptable, believing that love and service meant overlooking these issues. She didn’t know how to communicate her needs or set and hold boundaries in a firm yet compassionate manner.

The turning point came when A realized that while giving for the sake of Allah is essential, it doesn’t mean accepting less than what she deserves. She learned that she, too, is worthy of her rights and that setting boundaries is not only permissible but necessary, as an act of self-respect. This shift in perspective allowed her to see that her husband wasn’t trying to wrong her; rather, he needed to be shown, with firm compassion, what she deserved as a servant of Allah.

“We teach people how to treat us based on how we treat ourselves.”.

Through this journey, A approached her decision to divorce with clarity, confidence, and Tawakkul (trust in Allah). She understood that the process wasn’t just about ending a marriage—it was about who she was becoming and how she was elevating to the best version of herself. She learned to communicate authentically and vulnerably, without fearing the outcome, trusting deeply that Allah was guiding her every step of the way.

A’s story is a powerful example of how the Empowered Choices Mastermind can help you navigate marital crossroads with clarity and confidence. Whether you choose to divorce or recommit to your marriage, this program is designed to support you in making decisions that are rooted in your true self, aligned with your faith, and reflective of your worth as a servant of Allah.

If A’s journey resonates with you, I invite you to join the Empowered Choices Mastermind and discover the clarity and confidence you deserve.

P.S. Client A’s journey is still unfolding. If you’re curious to learn how her story has progressed and gain inspiration for your path, I invite you to book a discovery call with me to see if the Empowered Choices Mastermind is right for you.